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Kink On Tap 47: Used Largely For Massaging

Posted: June 30th, 2010 | Author: | Filed under: Episodes | 2 Comments »

Gay and bisexual men love them some sexy vibrations, but few swingers love gay or bisexual men. And, interestingly, Dutch swingers have higher STI rates than some groups of men who have sex with men. Meanwhile, the Internet might be getting its own red-light district, outrage over female genital mutilation misses a teachable moment about intersexuality, and Rhode Island Governor Donald Carcieri gets praised for being a bigot.

Although Emma binged on Doctor Who and I proved myself a homebody by missing all the San Francisco Pride parade parties, we spent Sunday with two scintillating panelists who both joined us for the first time. Sex journalist Rabbit White, whose writings about men range from male anorexia to male prostitution, offers an all-too-rare look at examining male sexuality from a feminist perspective, while being a woman. Lena Chen, freelance author of Sex and the Ivy fame, stayed up late to speak with us all the way from Germany and provided the most nuanced analysis of the recent female genital mutilation controversy at Cornell University we’ve heard yet.

Also, can I just say, again, super-big thanks to the chat room for one of the most supportive backchannel discussions yet. Y’all helped me with everything from getting medical terminology right to offering your own stories about circumcision and vibrators! Emma and I sometimes have trouble finding energy to produce this show, but connecting with the chat room and then getting an increasing amount of feedback afterwards really helps us burn the midnight oil. Please keep contacting us to let us know what’s on your mind, and don’t forget to subscribe to the community links feed to catch up with all the stories we didn’t have time for on the show itself!

2 Comments on “Kink On Tap 47: Used Largely For Massaging”

  1. 1 Kink On Tap » Blog Archive » The Anti-Lesbian Drug – Newsweek said at 10:25 pm on July 3rd, 2010:

    […] Alice Dreger, who raised concerns of a pediatricians' female genital mutilation practice, partnered with American University philosophy professor and gay rights activist Anne Tamar-Mattis […]

  2. 2 lovesickrobot said at 1:41 pm on July 6th, 2010:

    The ICRA site labeling system makes .xxx domains redundant. It’s already in use and it’s much more useful in that it’s much less ambiguous – there are separate categories for exposed breasts/genitals, harm to people or animals, vulgar language, etc. This breakdown is very useful for, say, people who want to look at exposed breasts and genitals but don’t want to see people or animals being harmed. This self-labeling is the closest thing to a “safe, patrolled red-light district” that the Internet is likely to have.

    As for .gay being proposed, I have to wonder when every single three-letter word gets it’s own TLD. I suggest .egg (for things related to pregnancy), .foe (for people who want to have adversarial Internet debates with mudslinging and personal attacks) and .poe (for gothic horror fans).